Significance of Bridal Veil: The Collapsed System and The Way Forward

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Today on socialetherapy blog, I'm updating you on an all important issue of the significance of 'bridal veil. The veil has so many significances that are traced down to various roots. Follow me as we unveil the mystery, significance, importance and how the purpose has been defeated.

First of all, let's know what a veil is. A bridal veil is more an accessory to the traditional white or cream bridal dress, but it has a long history behind it. While it signified different things to different
cultures it was generally intended to cover the bride's face so it remained hidden till appropriately unveiled. In some cultures the groom got to see his bride's face only after they were wed. In others only the groom got to see the bride's face and no one else.

Traditionally, the bridal veil is traced to the era when veil was also used to hide the bride's face as a demonstration of her modesty before God or to suggest the passage from virginal maidenhood to marriage. In some cultures the veil was a protection used to ward off
evils spirits. Bridal veils might also date back to ancient Greece and Rome where marriages were
arranged. To safeguard the bride and ensure the marriage took place veils were used to conceal the bride's face just in case the groom didn't like her looks and call the
wedding off. So the bride didn't reveal her face till her wedding day.

Unfortunately today, what we have is breath taking. The bridal veil no longer serve its purpose as womanhood is mal-handled by both men and women. From the above explanation of the bridal veil we have there, do we still have that purpose being nurtured? Have our women not gone out if place, have they not gone out of the path?

If you must know, chastity is no longer cultural but alien to our people, the fertility of our women is put under test before going to the alter. Have you not seen our ladies mounting the alter with protruded stomach? Maybe it's 'ona' that is in there. Right? Hell No!

The Way Forward
The error must be corrected. It starts from you, it starts from me. If we must have a generation that is unstained. A society devoid of immorality and lust, we have to stand up and do the right thing by correcting the anomaly. Yes we must do it. Are you going to do it? Sure, because it worth it.

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The Ideal Man and His Qualities

In our previous posts, we gave the women folk a reasonable attention. This generated a lot of controversy that the blog has been dedicated to women.

But with update today, we are discarding that notion. To mean that both men and women living in an ideal society such as ours need to follow the trends. (Ladies first...*smiles*).

Everyone is important. As much as man is important and being held with much respect and decorum, the woman is as well so important that they all have to be treated equally, but the reverse is what we have as the case, it is as result of this backdrop we have decided to come up with this article today courtesy of Folabrightsblog.

The Ideal Man and His Qualities.

1. Don't ever beat your wife for any reason. Prov. 19:11, Prov. 20:3
2. Don't ever forget that your wife is your greatest asset. Prov. 12:4, Prov.18:22
3. Don't ever forget to check the level of peace of your wife. Prov. 27:17
4. Don't associate with men that lack credibility and generational mindset. Prov.13:20
5. Don't ever hurt your wife no matter the level of insults passed on you. Col.3:19, 1Pet. 2:19-20
6. Don't ever wave off the ideas, advice or suggestions of your wife because of your selfish interest. Pro. 1:5, Pro.19:20
7. Never treat your wife as a servant. Eph. 5:29
8. Never make your wife a negative case study before friends and family. Prov. 5:18, Prov. 21:23
9. Never doubt your wife no matter what you know about her past. 1Cor. 13:5.
10. Don't deny your wife of sex. 1Cor.7:4-5.
11. Don't be careless. about the welfare of your home. 1Tim. 5:8
12. Don't compare your wife with anyone. 2Cor. 10:12
13. Never cheat on your wife no matter the condition. Prov. 6:32, Prov. 5:20
14. Never cut short the love you showed to your wife, rather, water it, and nurture it for effective continuous growing. Eph. 5:28-29
15. Never disregard the effort of your wife, rather appreciate her more and more. Prov. 31:28b
16. Never discuss the weak points of your wife at public opinion polls. Prov. 5:17
17. Don't call your wife unpleasant names such as prostitute, witch, fruitless entity, harlot, useless wife, bastard, rather call her
blessed, precious, capable, beautiful and virtuous woman. Col. 4:6, Prov. 31:28-29
18. NEVER EVER PLACE YOUR FRIENDS,
FAMILY OR WORK ABOVE YOUR WIFE.
19. Don't be self centered. Eph. 5:28, Phil. 2:3-4
20. Don't ever cook up plans against your wife because of your lustful
desires.
21. Never set up a family without having a family vision. Prov. 29:18, Hab. 2:2-3
22. Never make your wife feel inferior and uneducated before your friends, family, anyone or even you the husband.
23. Never compare your wife's attitude with your one time girlfriend's attitude. 2Cor.10:12
24. Don't be lazy to cater for your wife and family. 1Tim. 5:8
25. Never allow money to be the bond of love in your marriage. 1Tim. 6:10
26. Never allow your parents or family members to dictate the affairs of your home, remember, ''therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and cleave to
his wife………''. Gen. 2:23-24.
27. Don't ever let your children come between you and your wife. You married to your wife not your children, remember they have their life to live and when married and
gone, only your wife will still be with you, to cook for you, comfort you, refresh your body, soul and spirit in the bedroom. Matt. 19:6
28. Never hide any phone calls, text
messages, or password to mailbox from your wife. Transparency is the ultimate key to continuous trust and confidence in marriage. Rom. 12:9-10
29. Never owe your wife anything, always give her the very best; best in love, best care, most precious things and that which belongs to her. Rom.13:8
30. Never show a heart of ungratefulness to God and your precious wife, always and always be ever grateful for their presence in
your life. Prov. 31:28

Be all you can be. A real man understands that she is the neck that supports the Head.

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Five Striking and Functional Steps to SUCCESS

In life, there are two things involved. It is either SUCCESS or FAILURE. Life has to phases and it depends on which you choose as an individual, therefore, it is either you are a success or failure and the end result is that those who are termed as successful have gotten to that end as a result of what they knew and are convinced to do what they did.

However, those who are known to be failures are same as those who are successful, they all made their choices, but it was the wrong choice they made, and this is why they are where they are today.

In today's dose of socialetherapy, we are going to be stressing an important area of life and living-success. It is what everybody craves for and below you will find the areas you as an individual need to work on, take examples and lessons so as to be successful as well in life.

1. Be Proactive

Being proactive is a key to our success. we should strive to be the
creators of our own destiny, orchestrating our experience of life. Everything starts in the mind and ripples out, so what happens
around us is a reflection of our own inner world. Whether we allow our inner world to grow wild, whether we let weeds spring up and take hold or whether we cultivate a
green and pleasant garden – it is all our choice: this is what it means to be proactive.

2. Take Responsibility

Since we have the power to choose our experience, we also need to accept responsibility for this. Perhaps not that everything that comes our way is a direct result of our own thinking (though some
might say it is) but what we attract into our life is, largely, a reflection of our thinking.

Much of this occurs on a subconscious level, but the subconscious takes its lead
from the thinking mind, so changing our thoughts will change our world, and we are responsible for this.
Our behavior is a natural outcome of our mental images, and so we are responsible for our behavior too, and also for the behavior we tolerate in others. If we allow
others to ride roughshod over us, then we have ourselves to blame.

3. Be a Good Leader
We cannot be effective in any area of life unless we have good leadership skills. Leadership is an art and each of us needs to find our own approach to it. Primarily, we
need to understand how to lead ourselves, and this means having a compass, a direction which guides all our actions. This compass often takes the form of a personal
mission statement, a document spelling out the values we live by.

4. Don't Let Fear Stop You

We daily live our lives with the past and its negatives haunting us down. They come as often as our breath, uninvited. Whenever we grow, there is fear. Whenever we do something new, there is fear.

Whenever we push ourselves to new
heights or expand our comfort zone, there is fear. This is the nature of life. Life is always moving – either we are moving forward, growing, or we are moving back,
dying. We have a choice – we can either grow or we can die. Growth and fear go hand in hand. It's part of a package, and if we fail to embrace the whole package, we
will die. Don't fear failure – failure is inevitable and necessary. Look at the life of any successful person and you will see a litany of failure.
This failure is the foundation of success, so long as we learn from it.
Don't fear other people. They are as vulnerable and as beautiful as you are – only sometimes they lash out in various ways to protect themselves. Everyone is doing their best, so be gentle on other
people and don't be scared of them.
When you face your fears, they will vanish like smoke.

5. Never Stop Learning

I have come to the conclusion that learning is the fundamental activity in a successful and purposeful life. If we fail to learn, we fail to grow, and this means that we die. Life
gives us endless opportunities to learn, and the more difficult the situation, the more we are likely to learn.

We can learn from other people, especially difficult ones – they are like angels sent from heaven to teach us about ourselves. We can learn from the things happening around us. And most of all, we can learn by watching ourselves, seeing how we react and reflecting deeply on what moves us.

Excerpt from: TheChangeBlog

The above five mentioned steps to success are functional and are but a few of many strategies that can bring about success. We love to hear from you. Share this article to help a friend out using the share buttons and as well, do not forget to leave a comment behind.

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Five Qualities Of a Successful Marriage

Welcome once again to another fascinating update and thanks for your readership all these years.

Today we bring an article about marriage. This is one institution that is facing a lot of challenges from every side. It is therefore pertinent that we include it in what we do here on socialetherapy platform. Please read on and take a dose of what we have for you.

Qualities Of a Successful Marriage

Many people get married to someone they love with the hope that the bond will last forever.
Of course, with deliberate efforts from the two people involved, the bond will surely last forever.

However, if the couple in question don't work on their marriage, there may be ups and downs which might eventually ruin the union.

There are some positive habits that lead to a successful marriage, and if cultivated, could lead to a blissful marital home.

Here are some of those habits that lead to a successful marriage:

1. Accept differences: This is one of the tips for a happy marriage. After marriage, the first thing we all come to know is the fact that we are all different. We tend to have different habits and different preferences. So, if you dislike your partner's habits or preferences, you will generally try to change him or her. But if you can accept the differences without trying to change the other person, the the bond will last longer.

2. Discuss before taking decisions: Taking one-sided decisions is generally unhealthy after you are married. If you discuss everything with your spouse and then take a decision, your spouse will be very happy and this will help you reduce disagreements too.

3. Talk about your days: After work, when you are unwinding, it is good to talk about your day with your spouse. It helps you bond well. Sharing your highs and lows with your partner helps a lot in establishing the bond.

4. Give priority: This is one of the habits for a successful marriage. If you give the first priority to your marriage and give everything else the second place, your marriage will surely work; forever.

5. Gratitude: There is nothing wrong in thanking your spouse for everything he or she does. In fact, this will help you strengthen the bond. This is one of the habits for a happy marriage.

We hope this goes a long way in helping us get a society that is marriage problem and divorce free.

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10 Beautiful Things You Should Embrace About Your Womanhood

Here are ten things about womanhood that every woman should love and embrace.

1. Being able to bring new life into the world

Having babies is not the 'be all and end all' for all women, but it's certainly something to be celebrated. The gift of being able to bring a new life into the world, to care for it and to help it grow is a wonderful gift indeed.

2. Women are pillars of support and strength

When the men start panicking, the women start coming into their own. Women have an inherent ability to stand on their own, when they need to, and provide support in times of a crisis. They also naturally reach out to other people in need and help them get through tough times too.

3. Be proud of your body

Celebrate your body, because whatever size or shape you are, a woman's body is infinitely more attractive than a man's! That's why the great masterpieces of artwork often depict the naked female form, and not the male, so be proud of that beauty that you have.

4. Women are far more capable of taking on multiple roles

A woman can be a mum, a sensuous partner, a nurse and a committed career girl, all in the space of one day. This is one of the aspects of womanhood that really sets apart the genders and a woman can swap roles in the blink of an eye.

5. You can multi-task

This is often said as a joke, but it's absolutely true. You try getting a man to take care of a baby, cook the dinner, keep down a job and still look great at the end of the day!

6. You can make heads turn

You can make heads turn when you walk into a room too. Your attitude, your energy, your style, as well as your looks can get you noticed in a crowd, especially when you show the world that you are proud to be a woman.

7. You are emotionally strong

From an early age, women have to bear difficulties of many different types and that soon teaches them to be strong. Men might be good at hiding their emotions, but they are in no way as good as women are in handling them.

8. Embrace who you are without the makeup and fine clothes

Having said all that, a woman should also be able to embrace who she is when she stands in front of the mirror, naked and without makeup. Wearing makeup and fine clothes only serves to enhance your natural beauty, but it doesn't make it.

9. Your compassion also is a part of what makes you a woman

You should also be proud of the compassion and kindness that you are able to show others. Your willingness to want to stop hurt and pain in other people is an admirable trait that men most men lack.

10. Your stretch marks

What makes a woman beautiful is far more than a flat stomach and flawless skin. No matter how much your body changes, you can still be proud of it. Stretch marks and a less than perfectly flat stomach are nothing to be ashamed of; they are a reminder that you are a woman who lives life.

Stay happy! Live more...

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20 Questionnaires For Prospective Marriage Ventures

Today, I bring to you another exciting update about life and living, but on the basis of marriage ventures. It's quite alarming that many people go into marriages without considering the pros and cons. Inability to consider all these all important questions really brings about failure.

For those who are already married, there is still hope for you-always a room for adjustment. Get into it and redefine your purpose. And for those who are at the verge of getting into the university of colourful MATRICULATION and no idea of CONVOCATION, please read this with extreme care and try as much as possible to answer the following questions.

Materials Needed
Biro or Pen
Notepad
And of course, a sound mind void of emotional imbalance. Got all that, all right, let's go then...

1. Is for better or worse making me better or worse?
Does your partner encourage you to be your best self, or does he or she get intimidated by any triumphs and feel more secure when you're not putting your best foot forward?

2. Do we really accept one another?
There will always be things you want to change about the people in your life, but no one should be in a situation where they feel they aren't allowed to be authentic and accepted as the unique, special (yet flawed) person they are.

3. Who am I?
How can you know if your partner is a good match if you have no idea who you are?
4. Am I happy to be in this relationship?
The idea of sharing a life together is not to find someone to complete you or make you happy. But let's face it: being unhappy at home can seep into other areas of your life . . . and fast. If you're always fighting or just generally not feeling great about your twosome, it doesn't mean you have to bail out (counselling might be a good option) but marrying someone in the hope that it changes things is a bad, bad idea.
5. Am I feeling trapped?
Do you really want to be in this relationship the majority of the time or do you find yourself wishing for a way out? Do you stay because you've invested time or are you really invested in your mate?

6. What am I doing to hold us back?
Maybe you could be more attentive, more thoughtful, quicker to let things go, or the first to bring up going to counselling. Whatever it is, take this as your sign to step up.
7. Is this relationship balanced?
Do you feel you're both on the same page in terms of compromise, care, support and sacrifice? Or is one of you doing most of the giving while the other just sits with their hand out?

8. Can we have fun together?
Have you ever seen two people sit across from one another in silence at brunch as though they are being forced to walk through their day together? Not. fun.
9. Can we have fun apart?
Co-dependency ain't cute, y'all.

10. Why am I in this relationship?
Is it because you respect, love, trust, and value the person you are with? Or because you're afraid of being alone, worried about finances, or have built a life you're scared to leave?
11. Where is this going?
Living in the "now" is great, but eventually the partnership will need a plan or someone will begin to feel anxious.

12. Do I really trust my partner?
For some, the immediate response to this can be devastating. If you're one of them, it's time to ask why and how you can begin to build or rebuild trust. Without it, there's no chance.

13. Am I with a good person?
Knowing what you know about your partner today, would you vouch for them if they were a friend?
14. Am I attracted to my partner?
Physical attraction is hardly the most important component in a relationship, but forcing yourself to be in a relationship with someone who you're not attracted to — just because it's comfortable or "perfect on paper" isn't fair to anyone. You will feel resentful and they will feel rejected.
15. Am I a parent or a partner?
Taking care of someone you love is a great thing to do, but when you feel like you're raising a boyfriend — or worse, a husband — things get a little complicated. You'll resent his childish ways. Who wants to sleep with their mom?
16. Does my partner have my back?
Do you feel like you're a part of a loyal team who stands up for one another, supports one another, and shows a united front (even when the other is not around)? Or, do you feel like you're constantly being thrown under the bus by your mate?
17. Are we looking in the same direction?
Some couples avoid having the big talks (religion, marriage, babies) because they think that, somehow, these things will just "work themselves out." By the time they realize they won't, they're in a complicated, painful situation that leaves one (or both) feeling a little bit duped.
18. Are we growing together?
Being a human being living on this earth, we all have a right to grow and develop, and create a full life for ourselves. Are you and your partner still indulging in your passions (individual and shared) and growing as individuals?
19. Am I still me?
Being in love with someone should not require changing our identity to fit someone else's idea of who we should be, on any level.
20. What is my gut telling me?
You have intuition for a reason. Listen to yourself.
If u can not answer this 20 questions please and seriously don't go into marriage because it's not going anywhere…. You can share your views concerning this.

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